Looking Good When Pushing

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A debate on The Wright Stuff today is about whether it’s okay to want to glam up for labour. It’s suggested by some that it is vain and ridiculous and your concentration should purely be on the delivery and the baby and not on how you look.

I will admit that I had fully planned on putting on the slap. The plan I’d cooked up with my husband was that as soon as I started getting contractions he’d run me a hot bubble bath so I could relax and shave my legs (and attempt to tame the chaos of my lady garden I’d stopped being able to see after about five months). I was then going to do my hair and put on a bit if concealer, some powder and some waterproof mascara. My reasoning was that I feel better when I look better and when I’m in a stressful situation I like to feel good, and I wanted photos of her when she was brand new where I wasn’t hideously ashamed of how I looked.

In reality I didn’t know I was in labour and went in with pre eclampsia and bleeding. I then wasn’t allowed home. I had wooly mamouth legs and a Jackson 5 Afro between my thighs. My face was puffy with the pre eclampsia and I had no make up on. I was in labour when I went in and was in for three days. I had some mascara in my bag my husband brought me but no mirror so managed to get a bit on, but that was it. I was in delivery for eight hours and was pushing for one hour before I was rushed to surgery and I looked like hell and nobody cared. My husband told me I was beautiful and the midwives have seen so many bajingos that my fuzzy one was just another in a line of fuzzy bajingos.

The first photos I was so anxious about I look exhausted and pale and my hairs a mess. But my face is so full of joy that I don’t care, I feel no shame just a warm bubble of happiness recalling how I felt. My mum even took a photo of Rose’s first ever breast feed and its beautiful… Perhaps not beautiful in a normal sense, but it is definitely beautiful.

If I ever have another baby I will plan to do my make up again and I will plan to shave my legs again, but if I go in early again and things don’t go to plan I won’t worry about it. Ultimately its your labour and if you want make up then wear make up, but if things don’t work out don’t worry about it. As soon as that child is in your arms you’ll just be so relieved she’s out and she’s safe that your hair being a mess will be the last thing on your mind!

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Thanks as always for reading, and I’ll speak to you soon I hope!


5 responses to “Looking Good When Pushing

  1. I had the same plan… Although had given upon my lady garden due to itchiness I was experiencing. Nobody has makeup on at 3am haha!


  2. I’m enjoying reading your blog, you are definitely covering the topics going through my mind



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