I have an excellent relationship with my Health Visitor and trust her a lot. Until now my husband has felt the same way, but her nine month check has changed his opinion.
I don’t know if it is the same everywhere but Miss Rose’s nine month check involved a questionnaire to fill out on her progress in various areas such as communication and mobility. One such area was “Problem Solving”.
In all areas, except Problem Solving, Rose was in the white area. The white area was no problems, at or ahead of schedule. Grey is needs work on, black is serious problems. Rose is in the top of the grey section for Problem Solving.
I would be okay with this if the questions on the Problem Solving section weren’t, quite frankly, utterly ridiculous.
“If you put a crumb or Cheerio in a clear plastic bottle does your baby try and retrieve it” “Never, Sometimes, Always”.
“Why the heck would I put a crumb or Cheerio in a clear plastic bottle!?”
Apparently it wasn’t an essay question and we scored 0.
Okay, so… does she bang two toys together? Nope… She bangs her drum… she claps her hands… but doesn’t hold two toys and hit them into each other. We scored 0.
Obviously there are things we can work on, and I don’t doubt that she’s in the right place on the chart. For instance if I hide something from her under a pillow or blanket she doesn’t look for it she just moves on. She deserves her 0 score for that which is fine, however, I think some of her 0’s are somewhat unjust.
This injustice doesn’t devastate me, it doesn’t upset me or even worry me. I’m happy to do things from the suggestions sheet they gave me, some are things we already do, others are things I think she will enjoy. My dear husband, on the other hand, is furious.
I think he considers any perceived criticism of his daughter as a personal criticism of himself. Anything she does that could even vaguely be related to Problem Solving results in him proudly, and defiantly, “PROBLEM SOLVING!!!!” with an accusatory jab of the finger. Miss Rose gives him a bemused look and ambles on with whatever activity she was involved with.
I don’t know if he will forgive my poor Health Visitor, who herself declared that some of the questions were nonsense but that she has to follow the rules, but I do know that I am not about to be putting a Cheerio into a bottle any time soon.
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