I am getting fed up of Miss Rose’s dramatics. She has, in the last week or so, become the biggest drama queen known to mankind.
I do not indulge her tantrums. If something is actually wrong then I look after her, but most of the time it is just rage over not being allowed exactly what she wants, exactly when she wants it. When she does it I ignore her, or move her to a safe location, then ignore her. If she bumps herself in the fling down to the ground, I check she is not injured, then I ignore her.
My mother assures me that this tactic worked with both my brother and myself. It does not work with Miss Rose. She is determined, and she keeps on trying.
A lot of the time she will fling herself down, wail, then get back up and we carry on as normal. But sometimes she is so angry at me for not reacting that she launches an all out attack on me. She hits me, scratches me, and stamps on me. She screams and wails and claws at me.
Anything can set her off. If I put the wrong song on, if I want to make a cup of coffee, or if I offer her the wrong snack. It can be something as stupid as putting things back in the cupboard, or I might be stopping her from emptying out my drawers.
I am not a shouty mum, I will speak sternly to her, but I don’t shout.
I have shouted at her. A screech of “OH GOD PLEASE STOP!”
It is wearing me down. I love her company, and enjoy her so much, but I can’t focus all my attention on her all of the time. Sometimes I need to wash dishes, sometimes I need to brush my hair or make coffee. Sometimes I just want a moment to sit down because I’m tired. She has my energy and focus most of the time but I am only human. I cannot do it all the time.
She does not approve of this situation. She is a dramatic, stroppy, furious ball of rage.
It is becoming very difficult at times. And I don’t know what to do about it.
I have to just keep working on the assumption that it’s just a phase. I have to just remain calm and consistent. She WILL grow out of it.
I am wary of putting it down to the stress of her father’s absence. Much as I would like to blame him for everything, I don’t know if I can get away with it. That said, her behaviour is always worse on a day she has seen him. She gets violent and angry, screams out “daddy” and seems to hate everything about me and everything I do. As this is only every few weeks, however, I don’t think I can attribute it all to him.
I do hope she grows out of it soon.
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