Public Breastfeeding, Still A Debate?!

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It absolutely blows my mind that in 2016, it’s still a matter of debate whether women should be allowed to breastfeed their babies in public.  People genuinely have an issue with babies being fed in the way the human body is designed to feed them.

I’m going to have a look at a few of the comments on Twitter and discuss them.

If you can breast feed in public, I should be able to pee on a tree.

Genuinely.  This is what someone thinks.

Okay so, let’s look at this logically.  We will start from the basics and move on.

If this guy pees on a tree, he’s getting his penis out in public.  The penis is genitalia.  If a woman breastfeeds in public she’s taking a breast out in public.  Breasts are not genitalia.  Therefore, even just the implement itself is different in classification.

Urine and breastmilk, there’s a difference there also.  Urine is waste matter, breastmilk is life giving sustenance.  Urine is dirty, breastmilk is perfect.

Peeing on a tree exposes everything.  Breastfeeding does not.

Peeing on a tree is a selfish act.  Breastfeeding is completely not selfish as it’s using your body to sustain another.

Peeing in public isn’t legal.  Breastfeeding in public is.

Peeing is peeing.  Breastfeeding is feeding a baby!

This honestly screams “women’s bodies are disgusting and shameful and should be hidden when being used for anything other than male gratification” which is just misogyny at it’s finest.

Photo credit 102 MessManos

Photo credit 102 MessManos

Baby’s gotta eat! But let’s not wag ’em in everyone else’s face.

Wag.  Wag?  I breastfeed in public routinely because I’m a mother who goes out in public with a breastfeeding baby.  My boobs don’t wag.  They’re heavy and full of milk.  I hold my daughter, pop a boob straight from my top into her mouth, and then it just sits there whilst she feeds.  There’s no wagging.  There’s barely any movement. Out, feed, in.  This is an objection based on nothing that actually happens.

Attention ladies stop breast feeding in public it’s so awkward

Awkward?  For whom?  I bet this guy doesn’t object to a woman displaying her boobs in a slinky haltertop.  Or wearing a bikini.  I feed my baby anywhere and I never feel awkward because there’s nothing wrong with my body.

When I was a size 8 wearing sexy little outfits to go out dancing I showed more boob than I do when I’m feeding my baby and nobody felt awkward then so I assume it’s because when they’re on display to be sexy it’s for men, when they’re being used for their natural purpose of feeding a baby it’s not for men and that makes it “awkward.”  We’re taking away their wank material.  Awkward.

Photo credit WerbeFabrik

Photo credit WerbeFabrik

So I’m in the office & a corporate lady with a newborn needed our network to download software & she pops out a boob to breast feed :O

Firstly, good for her.  Being a working mother is exhausting.  Being a working mother to a newborn is even more exhausting.  Being a breastfeeding, working mother is even more exhausting still.

Secondly, so?  So she’s feeding her baby whilst working and you’re there.  Why is this an issue?  It should be a matter of respect.  It’s multitasking in the extreme.  The only shock face over this should be how she’s managing to balance two demanding parts of her life.  As someone doing it in a much less pressured setting than an office environment and often struggling, it’s truly remarkable.

Why do people expect to be allowed to breastfeed in shops etc?If I walked in with a I’d be told to fuck off too!

People eat in shops all the time.  Not a roast dinner, obviously, but food.  Snacks, drinks all sorts.  And people object in the same way to babies being breastfed in restaurants where food is literally being eaten everywhere!

Also, I’m fairly certain if a baby is screaming in hunger then that is far less pleasant for everyone, including the baby in question.  If the mum feeds the baby then the baby is happy and quiet and everyone can just enjoy their experience more comfortably.

Photo Credit Valeria Rodrigues

Photo Credit Valeria Rodrigues

idc what anyone say.. i’m ALL for breastfeeding. but people really act like they can’t pump that shit for when they’re in public!

Firstly you’re not “all for breastfeeding” if you’re against public breastfeeding.  That’s not all for breastfeeding.  That’s still believing there’s something shameful about it.

Secondly pumping doesn’t always work.  I’ve tried it and I cannot get enough out to feed my daughter.  It’s exhausting and doesn’t yield enough, whereas direct breast to mouth and she’s getting exactly what she needs.

Thirdly breast milk isn’t shit.

Fourthly, why should they?  If you want to pump do it, but pumping enough even when you’re physically able is practically a full time job.  It takes time away from feeding your baby, bonding with your baby, living your life, going out in public in the first place.  If you don’t have to pump, if you don’t want to pump, why not just use your breast, seeing as there is absolutely nothing wrong with a breast… and as you think you’re “all for breastfeeding” you should be all for breastfeeding.

Before formula, there was breast milk.  Before bottles there was breasts.  The human race has lasted this long because we are physically able to nurture our young using our bodies.  That’s incredible.  Women’s bodies are genuinely incredible.  We can grow these humans and feed them with nothing except what our bodies naturally do and that is truly remarkable.

If you object to breastfeeding in public but not to breasts being shown off in sexy tops, you’re a misogynist.  If you object to breastfeeding in public but don’t blink at adverts for push up bras in shop windows, you’re a misogynist.

A woman’s body is not disgusting or shameful and breastfeeding is what breasts are actually meant for.  We have breasts that make milk for this very reason.  Sure they’re pretty and fun and sexy, that’s a great second use for these amazing things, but first and foremost breasts and the milk they make is for the nourishment of our children.

If you don’t like it, don’t look.  Because our babies are more important than  your ridiculous opinions.

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2 responses to “Public Breastfeeding, Still A Debate?!

  1. Do agree but don’t want to overstate the problem. Ok I’ve had one or two weird looks but far far outweighed by supportive looks and comments when I BF in public.
    As well as calling the idiots out it’s also important to remind new prospective breastfeeding mothers that actually most people couldn’t care less (in a good way)!!

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