1) I have a very rare allergy
I’m allergic to my own blood. It’s an auto immune condition where my blood becomes an allergen sometimes. It can make me come out in an itchy rash, vomit or get very ill with very little warning and is one of the contributing factors to the swine flu nearly killing me whilst I was pregnant.
2) I’m vegetarian
I stopped eating meat for short periods throughout my childhood but gave it up for good when I was thirteen. In the eighteen years since I’ve only ever eaten meat when served it accidentally. I don’t miss it at all and the idea of eating meat now grosses me out, whereas I used to love meat when I wasn’t veggie.
3) I met my husband when I was 23
We got married when I was 26 and had Miss Rose when I was 27. He left when I was 28 and my divorce was finalised when I was 29.
4) I’ve never smoked a cigarette
When I was a teenager I hung out with lots of smokers in grungy rock clubs but never tried. I also never smoked weed or tried any other drugs. People always assume that was my history but it never appealed and never has and I hate the smell of it still.
5) I started modelling for a while
I tried it for a while and a few people wanted me to keep going but I was too short for fashion modelling and unwilling to pose nude, plus I wasn’t the right look at all so I wouldn’t have got much work even if I had really tried. My heart wasn’t in it anyway, I felt pretty shit about myself when I did it and genuinely wish I hadn’t done it. It was a silly impulsive idea I knew I wasn’t cut out for and used to validate my feelings of being unattractive and worthless. It broke my already low self esteem into shreds. I’d never encourage my daughters to explore that as an option.
6) I am a runaway fantasist
Part of me always longs to runaway. To just take what I need, leave everything else, and disappear. Start fresh. When I was single with my daughter after my marriage broke down I even researched places I could take her and disappear to. Now is the only time in my life that desire hasn’t been a prominent lingering urge to be ignored. Now it only pops up in times of extreme stress.
7) I’m a terrible singer
I have no ear for music, can’t carry a tune, and really can’t hold a note. Even if I could hit an actual “note” I wouldn’t hold it. That said I sing with gusto. My mum and I sang to Copa Cabana at a karaoke in Spain and it was truly dreadful but very enthusiastic. Fortunately I was drunk.
8) I have HPV
My cervix has abnormal cells with the HPV virus meaning my likelihood of developing cervical cancer is greatly increased. Three years ago I had to have a biopsy with suspected cancerous cells but luckily they were clear. You can develop HPV after just one incident of sex without a condom. There is now a vaccine they’re offering to teenage girls though many are arguing against it claiming it will encourage unprotected sex. I, however, definitely want my daughters vaccinated.
9) I hated school
I truly loathed school. So much so that I couldn’t bare the idea of going to university, even now it baffles me that people love it and get excited by it, and so much that I don’t socialise with the group of friends I had even though they’re all still really close. We aren’t even facebook friends. I find reminders of that time too hard to deal with. When I had to look around Miss Rose’s primary school I felt sick. I still feel incredibly awkward going there even though her teachers are super lovely and the school is really nice. I’m scared I transmit my own phobia to her even though I do everything I can to be calm and enthusiastic.
10) Our second daughter was named within weeks of us meeting
You wouldn’t necessarily think two cynical divorcees would be so daft, but within about 4weeks The Boy and I were referring to our future daughter by name. Even my mum started doing it within a month or so. When I got pregnant a year later he was so confident that she was the prophesized little blonde girl named so long ago that he wasn’t interested in discussing potential boy’s names because he knew the baby was our daughter. Turned out he was right. We found out the sex, she was a girl. And he’s with us now and she’s a little blondey as he had predicted she would be, with the name given to her before she had even been conceived.
1. Share 10 things about you the person. Not you the parent, the baker or the business.
2. Name check the person who nominated you.
3. Tag 3- 5 others to share 10 things.
4. Enjoy the tidbits of information we all learn about each other.
5. Voila, job done.
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