When a woman says she doesn’t think anyone will believe her, it is almost always when she’s speaking out against a man. And pretty much always against a man with power and influence.
For some reason, the mass opinion of society is that a man with power and influence is far more likely to be the innocent victim of slander, than a woman he has power and influence over is to be the victim of abuse. There’s the fear that a man’s reputation will be so damaged by the woman’s accusations that his life will be ruined whereas she will continue unscathed.
When men can be accused to some of the most heinous crimes; rape, murder, child abuse, and continue to have successful careers in film, television and, say, presidency, I think we can safely assume that this is bullshit. And when women who have made accusations have been verbally and physically abused so much they’ve had to change their names and move house, or have been fallen into depressions so badly they’ve committed suicide, it is clear that women don’t get as much out of accusations as people seem to think.
So why do we continue not to believe women?
Why do we enable men to gaslight women into believing they have done something wrong, or invited their abuse?
Why do we enable this pathetic belief that women owe something to men? That if they want us we are some how duty bound to protect their feelings, even if it sacrifices our own personal comfort or safety? That rejecting them is an act of cruelty not self preservation?
I believe in the Sisterhood. I believe that women should be a network of strength for one another. I believe that when one of your fellow women comes to you and tells you of pain in her life that it is your duty as to hear her.
I believe that if you flirt with a man you owe him nothing.
I believe that if you go on a date with a man you owe him nothing.
I believe that if a man is in love with you you owe him nothing.
I believe that “consent” obtained through coercion, manipulation, pressure, bullying, gas lighting or guilt tripping is not consent at all. It is rape.
I believe that anyone, male or female, who would try to convince a woman that she is in the wrong because a man cannot control himself needs to take a long hard look at themselves and then fuck off as far as they can go.
I believe that any woman who would immediately take the stance that the woman in pain is lying and sides with the man accused of causing the pain is seriously and incredibly wrong.
None of this means I hate men, none of this means I support abuse of men, something people often seem to assume. It means that I believe women. I support women.
I am here for the Sisterhood. And God help the mister who comes between me and my sister. Because I will fight for my sisters. I will fight for women.
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